"Don't miss out on life because you didn't get included in other's plans."
That's probably the best advice I got all week. Actually, I got a lot of really great advice, but I couldn't write it all down in the header. {that would be weird}
I'm pretty sure everyone knows what feels like to not get invited to something. It's an issue I've really been struggling with this year. But, last night, I finally had an epiphany!{and I decided to actually listen to people's advice}
Over the past few months, I've been busier than ever. I got a job. Senior project started. I'm spending time with my family. There is always something I should be doing (whether or not I'm actually doing that is another story).
Because of all the craziness, it's been increasingly more difficult for me to find time to hang out with my friends. That doesn't mean I never have time to hang out with friends. I definitely do! I've just had to make the decision not to hang out with friends a lot more frequently than before. That leads to some feelings of being left out, even if I was invited.
Then, there are times when people have to make the decision not to invite someone. I mean, you can't always invite the whole school just so one person doesn't feel left out. I'll be honest (and state an obvious fact); being the person who doesn't get invited sucks. All your friends were there. They took pictures without you. They ate good food without you. They laughed without you. They talk about it later, but you can't join in the conversation.
We all know that's just no fun, but that's the way life is sometimes.
So, that's happened to me a few times over the past several months. It happens to everyone. My problem was, I let it get to me. I thought about it and wondered why I suddenly wasn't good enough to be with my friends anymore.
Then it hit me. {Actually, it didn't happen that fast. It took several late nights, long talks, and multiple texts messages with my parents.}
Sometimes, you just have to let things go. I've always had a hard time with that. I'm a planner (when things go differently than I expect, I really just don't know what to do with myself). I've told myself millions of times before that I shouldn't get so worked up about things, but I think I finally got it.
Not getting invited to one party isn't going to ruin your life, and you shouldn't let it. Being angry about things really doesn't make them any better. In fact, it takes away from other things you could be doing instead of sitting around feeling sorry for yourself and wondering what's wrong.
I'll admit that's a hard lesson to learn. You know all of it's true. You can tell yourself that over and over again. Learning to let go, be happy, and forgive is the real lesson, though.
So, I think I've finally learned that. I'm sure I'll still struggle with it occasionally, but I'd much rather just be happy. Being upset with your friends is no good (especially when they don't even realize they did anything to hurt you).
Over the past few months, I've been busier than ever. I got a job. Senior project started. I'm spending time with my family. There is always something I should be doing (whether or not I'm actually doing that is another story).
Because of all the craziness, it's been increasingly more difficult for me to find time to hang out with my friends. That doesn't mean I never have time to hang out with friends. I definitely do! I've just had to make the decision not to hang out with friends a lot more frequently than before. That leads to some feelings of being left out, even if I was invited.
Then, there are times when people have to make the decision not to invite someone. I mean, you can't always invite the whole school just so one person doesn't feel left out. I'll be honest (and state an obvious fact); being the person who doesn't get invited sucks. All your friends were there. They took pictures without you. They ate good food without you. They laughed without you. They talk about it later, but you can't join in the conversation.
We all know that's just no fun, but that's the way life is sometimes.
So, that's happened to me a few times over the past several months. It happens to everyone. My problem was, I let it get to me. I thought about it and wondered why I suddenly wasn't good enough to be with my friends anymore.
Then it hit me. {Actually, it didn't happen that fast. It took several late nights, long talks, and multiple texts messages with my parents.}
Sometimes, you just have to let things go. I've always had a hard time with that. I'm a planner (when things go differently than I expect, I really just don't know what to do with myself). I've told myself millions of times before that I shouldn't get so worked up about things, but I think I finally got it.
Not getting invited to one party isn't going to ruin your life, and you shouldn't let it. Being angry about things really doesn't make them any better. In fact, it takes away from other things you could be doing instead of sitting around feeling sorry for yourself and wondering what's wrong.
I'll admit that's a hard lesson to learn. You know all of it's true. You can tell yourself that over and over again. Learning to let go, be happy, and forgive is the real lesson, though.
So, I think I've finally learned that. I'm sure I'll still struggle with it occasionally, but I'd much rather just be happy. Being upset with your friends is no good (especially when they don't even realize they did anything to hurt you).
Here's to letting go. Here's to being happy. Here's to living your life.
Another nugget of wisdom from Poppy: "Life is full of rejection and dejection! It's what you do with it that makes you who you are."
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